Oral Sex: What Is It and How to Do It

An intimate act done by couples. Oral sex can be part of a healthy sex life.
An intimate act done by couples. Oral sex can be part of a healthy sex life.

Oral sex can be performed as foreplay or as the main act. Some people adore it, some not that much. Some like to receive it, but not do it, and vice versa. As with any sexual act, it is totally up to you if you want to do it. Bear in mind that some enjoy it even more than plain penetration. It is a way of getting more intimate with your partner. After all, they expose their most private parts to you. Doing oral can strengthen your relationship and connect you deeper with your partner. Like any other sexual activity, it should be done with the consent of both sides. Nobody expects you to do it if you don’t like it. Everybody has their preferences, and there are no standards that should be followed. It can result in intense orgasms for your partner


In fact, there are three types of oral sex. The cunnilingus is the one that is performed on a vagina or vulva. Fellatio is best known as a blowjob or sucking. And there is an anilingus or the oral stimulation of the anus. Interestingly, oral was considered taboo for a long time. Even in Ancient Rome, where people were real party animals, fellatio was connected to submission and control. The person doing it was usually a slave or somebody of lower rank. But nothing is humiliating in giving or getting some head. It is one way of enjoying your partner and their body. And there are so many ways to do it. It can be as fun as any other sex play. Many people prefer it to anything else. Today it is common and many people enjoy it regularly.

Oral Sex and Vaginas


The first thing you should know is not every person with a vagina likes getting oral. Maybe their previous experience wasn’t satisfactory, or they just don’t feel it. But most women do like it. The vagina is a complex body part that has thousands of nerve endings. It makes it highly sensitive and oral sex is maybe the greatest way to stimulate all those nerves. The best way to start is to first give the lady a few kisses on the thighs. It will excite her as the inner parts are close to her genitals. You will be stimulating her arousal as she will be eager for you to get to her pussy. This whole area is highly sensitive, but the clitoris is the turning point. It has around 8k endings that like to be stimulated.


Actually, the clit is like a flower. It is gentle. The best thing you can do to make your lady friend feel the ecstasy is to lick it. The tongue has the perfect texture that can make this little button turn on the ultimate feeling of satisfaction. If you are unsure how to do it, think of it like ice cream. Some people like to eat it in a few seconds, and some like to lick it endlessly. Follow your partner’s signals and see what works for them. Don’t be afraid to ask your partner what they like and how they like it. Communication is the key point to any oral sex. Before you start, ask the other side what they like. The more you know, the more you will both enjoy it. There is nothing better than getting turned on while you feel your partner getting aroused because of you.


Lick the Lollipop


Most men adore receiving blowjobs. Not only do they feel like paradise, but watching somebody perform is a big turn-on. A penis doesn’t have to be erect to do oral sex. It can become hard while doing it. But if you wish to, you can help make it go up with your hands before blowing. Your hands can be of great help while sucking your partner’s penis. They will give you more control and you can use them to allow how deep you want to go. Deep throating may make you gag and you shouldn’t feel embarrassed about it. But blowing also implies the same idea, do it if you like, and how you like it. Nobody should force you to go deeper than you want or do anything that doesn’t feel right to you.


Although a penis has a completely different anatomy than a vagina, it is sensitive. You may try different movements and use your tongue to give it a go. Start gently and see how your partner reacts with harder and faster movements. Make sure to pay attention to your teeth as they can hurt this gentle organ. Some people like to feel them, but only if they ask you to. Another sensitive part is the testicles. You can suck them as well and give your partner additional excitement. If you have a vibrator at hand, you can use it to give them positive vibes while blowing the penis. It can make your partner feel like seventh heaven. If you feel like it, let them cum in your mouth or on your face. It will put the cherry on top of your exquisite performance.

Additional Tips on Oral Sex


Last but not least, all genitals have a certain taste and smell. If you keep your hygiene well, they will feel pleasant. Make sure to wash your private parts regularly and eat healthy foods. If you are not particularly fond of the taste, there is always lube. They come in different tastes and you can choose the ones you like. It will make the whole experience more delicious. Experiment with these and find the ones that won’t irritate the skin. After all, oral sex should feel pleasant to all sides. Explore it and feel all the wonders that it can bring.

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