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What Does it Mean to be Biromantic?

A biromantic individual is romantically attracted by more than one gender.

A biromantic individual is romantically attracted by more than one gender. It simply means they can hold hands, kiss, and cuddle but not have sex with them. Sexual and romantic intentions are different, meaning you can be biromantic and asexual.

But “bi” means two!

Of course, ‘bi’ means two, but since we no longer have two genders, the prefix can describe more than two genders.

Difference Between Biromantic, Bisexual, Aromantic, Demiromantic, and Asexual

Although ‘biromantic’ and ‘demiromantic’ refer to individuals’ romantic orientation, they are entirely different. A person who is demiromantic generates romantic feelings after having a strong bond with someone.

A biromantic person is romantically attracted to individuals from more than one gender group. But remember, sexuality comes in a wide range. Therefore, a biromantic person can also be demiromantic.

The term ‘bisexual’ has an aspect of sex in it. It refers to someone’s sexuality. On the other hand, ‘biromantic’ is about an individual’s ability to have romantic emotions. An individual who is attracted to more than one gender and at the same time can generate romantic feelings towards people from different genders is both bisexual and biromantic.

Asexuality refers to a lack or low interest in sexual desires towards other people. Most biromantic individuals identify as asexual, meaning they can have romantic connections with people but lack the desire to sleep with them.

Biromantic and ‘aromantic’ are two different things. Aromantic people do not have any romantic connections with other people.

How is Biromantic Different from Panromantic?

Panromantic means that one is romantically attracted to people from all gender groups, whereas biromantic means being romantically attracted to persons of various gender groups.

Biromantic is somehow limited to maybe two or three gender groups, while panromantic is about all gender groups.

Some people identify as both panromantic and biromantic. Others prefer the former label over panromantic as they are not romantically attracted to all gender spectrum.

Supposing someone is only attracted to men and non-binary persons and not women. They are well described by the term biromantic, not panromantic.

How Does Biromantic Look Like in Practice?

Being biromantic isn’t all the same to all people. You could be:

  • Romantically attracted to men and non-binary individuals but not women
  • Women and non-binary persons attract you romantically but not men
  • Men and women attract you romantically but not non-binary people
  • Romantically attracted to people of all gender groups

If you are really biromantic:

  • Gender isn’t an issue to you when choosing someone to date
  • You fantasize about having a future romantic partner regardless of their gender
  • You desire to have romantic relationships with people of different gender groups

Remember, everyone is unique, and your uniqueness can manifest in any aspect of your life, including your identity. Meaning you can have unique features of being biromantic that are not stated above.

How Does Romantic Coexist by Your Sexual Orientation?

As earlier said, you can be both biromantic and bisexual. Meaning you are romantically and sexually attracted to people of various gender groups. However, some biromantic individuals have sexual orientations that are different from their romantic intentions. This is known as “mixed orientations.”

In short, mixed orientations means you are sexually attracted to one gender group and romantically attracted to another.

The following are some examples of individuals with mixed orientations:

  • A biromantic heterosexual woman is romantically attracted to individuals of different genders but is only sexually attracted to men
  • A biromantic gay man is attracted to various gender groups romantically but can be only sexually attracted to men
  • A biromantic asexual being is attracted to people of different gender groups but barely has sexual attraction
  • A biromantic lesbian is romantically attracted to individuals of different gender groups but is only sexually attracted to women
  • A biromantic pansexual individual is romantically attracted to persons of different genders but is sexually attracted to people of all genders.

These are just but a few examples. You can describe yourself in other ways, and it is acceptable.

How to Come Out 

After figuring out who you really are, you may find it necessary coming out to your loved ones and break the news. Coming out is always a process. Therefore you should do it procedurally. Some of the best ways to come out as a biromantic include:

  • Gather important people in your life and break the news in person
  • Make a social media post elaborating on your romantic orientations
  • Open up first to people who you feel won’t judge you
  • Have someone talk on your behalf if you are scared
  • Explain what it means to be biromantic to your loved ones

Remember, this is news to everyone except you. Therefore, you shouldn’t expect much on the same day. Different people have different ways of accepting news; some can accept it immediately while others take time to digest the news.

Give them some time to allow the news to sink; they will come around at the right time. If some can never come to terms with your romantic orientation, appreciate that some did and move on. It’s about you and not anyone else.

If you can’t break the news in person, consider a phone call or a text message. After a while, you can show up and explain everything. Remember, it’s advisable to inform your loved ones first before going public.

How to Support Someone Who Has Come Out to You

First thing, you should understand that they have confidence in you to share the news with you. You should also know that they trust you. The best thing to do is understand and be there for them every step of their way to discover who they really are. 

You should also educate yourself and use the information to support and not judge them. In any case, don’t force them to come out to everyone if they are not yet ready. Offer them the kind of support they need to accept themselves and live a better life. 

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